How To Be Spontaneous

 

You may be familiar with the unexpected, occasionally utterly random discovery that you're acting out the same same day today as you did yesterday if you're like many other people now living what society would consider a "normal" life (and the day before). This realization is frequently followed by an existential crisis that makes you wonder if you're living life to the fullest.

First, try to relax and take a few deep breaths. Recognize that eating, sleeping, and waking up are all part of our daily routines. You're not living the most boring existence of any person who has ever lived. However, a vital component of success in life is a good dose of spontaneity.

This post will briefly go over some tips on how to be more spontaneous as well as some crucial points to remember while doing so.

Embrace your intuition.

Being logical and rational is in no way a defect in a person's character. But there comes a point where being overly analytical might backfire. Even though your initial response is one of readiness and excitement, it might be time to trust your instincts if you frequently refuse requests and steer clear of situations. There is merit in the impulsive urge you experience when determining whether or not to pursue a particular course of action. It's acceptable to occasionally allow your instinct take precedence over reason.

Say what needs to be said.

A bit more spontaneity can help you if you can quickly think of instances in which you were forced to speak up and say something but did not. Being impulsive and bold enough to speak can spare you the agonizing anguish of regret, whether the occasion is a business meeting, an unpleasant remark someone makes to you, or introducing yourself to the person you've been pining on for what feels like forever.

Should you just blurt out whatever comes to you at the moment? Without a doubt. The best course of action, though, is often to speak up when you know it will be to your favor.

Get opinions from individuals who are most familiar with you.

Simply questioning the people you spend the most time with can provide an honest response if you're uncertain about whether you genuinely lack spontaneity or are just being overly critical of yourself. It can be challenging to recognize when you're being too predictable because one hallmark of a routine is doing things without much thinking. You can spot trends that only other people can perceive and adjust your behavior by getting feedback on how anti-spontaneous you actually are.

Be open-minded and inquiring.

We all naturally have a desire to learn more about the world around us as we grow older. As they get older and find their place in the world, the majority of people tend to lose some, if not all, of this curiosity. You need to be curious and open-minded in order to step outside of your comfort zone and try new things if you want to be spontaneous. If not, you'll casually continue with your daily activities and pass up all the exciting opportunities available.

Stop consuming useless things in your free time.

Possibly the best moment to indulge in a little spontaneity is when you have free time on your hands and are not required to perform duties like work. If you're like most people, you spend this time doing uninteresting, unstimulating activities like watching TV or scrolling through your phone.

It goes without saying that engaging in these kinds of activities won't make you more impulsive. Do something different when you have free time to spend however you like.

There is no ideal moment.

Not to pick on the overly analytical, passive people again, but spontaneity frequently vanishes while you wait for the right opportunity to act. Furthermore, if you do this, you frequently lack any particular standards for what constitutes ideal time.

Not that timing isn't important; but, life rarely operates in black-and-white terms, and flawless timing is all but impossible. Do whatever it is that you wish to do. The normal outcome of waiting for the ideal moment is further waiting.

Understanding of recurring patterns

Being aware of your routine can be helpful, even if we've already discussed how getting stuck in a pattern might limit how spontaneous a life you can live and the value of asking people if you're chronically predictable or not. Simply reviewing your daily actions for the past week, month, or year can reveal recurring patterns that you might not be aware of when they are happening if you feel you lack spontaneity.

Don't force it.

This one, while more about how NOT to be spontaneous, is nonetheless significant to notice. It's not a good idea to make an effort to be very spontaneous, just like it's not a good idea to make any other adjustment in your life.

This negates the point of spontaneity in the first place and will come across as fake to others. Starting a new hobby or taking a spontaneous weekend trip are both wonderful things to do, but selling everything you own and deciding to hike Everest on a whim is not.

Mind the Context

When attempting to inject more spontaneity into your life, it's also important to take context into account. There are just some aspects of your life where being spontaneous is probably not the best option when it comes to practical application.

For instance, you presumably have specified duties or responsibilities at work that you must carry out in a particular manner and at specific times. On a random Tuesday, deciding to do something unusual might not be the best thing for your working situation. Knowing when to be more spontaneous is a positive thing is important.

Speak to both known and unknown faces.

The final item on our list has to do with a daily activity that practically everyone engages in. Consider the locations where you frequently spend time, such as the grocery store, the gym, or public transportation. There are probably some individuals with whom you have come into touch 100 times, perhaps even exchanged a pleasant nod, but have never talked.

Simply striking up a discussion with these well-known individuals can help you become more spontaneous. You never know what information, connections, or other advantages you might make this way.

Magic is killed by overplanning. To repeat the same day twice would be a waste of life. Live a little more; think a little less.